A number of people who register with online Chinese dating sites do so because they like the idea of having a family oriented, submissive, petite and docile partner. Since these are the very qualities supposed to be possessed by Chinese girls, they take it for granted that all women dating online possess them. Maybe that’s the reason so many people feel cheated and disillusioned after dating online for some time and their Chinese girls marriages solemnized in haste usually end in divorce. The fault does not lie with the Chinese girls who have distinct personalities as women anywhere else in the world, but with naïve men who choose to believe in stereotypes.
Generalizing has it hazards and when it comes to things like intimate relationships, instinct is the best guide. When dating, in real world or virtual, people try to put their best foot forward and even lie in order to get the attention and approval of someone they’re attracted to. They tell you what you want to hear and show you what you want to see. When you approach a Chinese girl with preconceived notions for an online date, you set yourself up for either deception or disappointment or both. The trick is to treat each person as an individual with their unique personality quirks without losing perspective of the influence their culture exerts on their attitudes and aspirations.
With their education and financial independence, Chinese girls of today are quite different from their mothers or grandmothers. The changing socio-political scenario within China and its opening up to the outer world has deeply affected the attitude and position of women in Chinese society. While traditional values are giving away under the western influence, most still put their families before everything else. However, the thing is that when I say most, it does not mean all. There are chances that the Chinese girl you are dating online has other priorities. So, take your time getting to know her better before you make any commitment. The best thing about online dating is that you get a chance to connect to the person on various levels before the physical attractions blinds you to their faults.
Remove those rose tinted glasses, see her as she is, accept her for what she is and enjoy her company. As for the stereotypes, throw them in trash bin because that’s where they belong.
Category: About Chinese Girls